I was.

I discovered the reason why so many people say they want the perfect life but never achieve it.

They are simply resisting change in their life.

Why is that?

Mainly, when change has entered a person’s life in the past, it usually came in the form of a loss, not a gain.
It carried with it pain, not pleasure, so most people equate change to something negative instead of something positive.

Change then becomes “chains” that people carry around with them.

Most people you meet are:

  • chained to their past,
  • chained to how things are,
  • chained to fears,
  • chained to doubts,
  • chained to insecurities,
  • chained to other people’s opinions,
  • chained to other people’s patterns of life,
  • chained to other people’s beliefs.

Chains are much too heavy to carry around, even when you know you are about to get rid of them.

Most people have a tendency to resist any growth at all in their life, because they are afraid that it will produce pain, or create a loss… which does not make any sense, because growth is a forward function, not a backward one!

The People Who Resist Change when presented with a new opportunity

  • usually work for someone else,
  • usually end up with less in life,
  • usually make excuses, not money,
  • usually look for things to not work,
  • usually complain more than those who don’t resist,
  • usually see less of the world,
  • usually are less inclined to join with positive people,
  • usually are more negative than those who don’t resist.

People who resist change let life happen to them, instead of making life happen for them. It may even be subconscious, but the tendency is there.

The Two Most Powerful Words that can open people to positive change: “What if?”

“What if coaching did work? How might your life change?”

“What if you could live the life you truly want?”

“What if you did remove all the chains that are limiting your life right now.. how might it be improved?”

If people you know are still resistant to change, just be patient with them. Take positive action for your own life and set an example. One day in the future, they’ll see how you have changed and they’ll ask you how you did it.

When you explain what you did, they’ll ask why you didn’t tell them about the opportunity before.

Maybe you’ll answer, “I did!”

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